Monthly Archives: January 2008


Yesterday is “History”, Tomorrow is “Mystery”, Today is the Gift of God, that is why it is known as “PRESENT.


So friends are you really enjoying this gift of god, “The Present” or are You still waiting for the “Right Time to Come” or that special day .. to come.


How often we keep on waiting for the “Right Time” –

To do something special…

To give something special…..

To say something special to somebody special…..

and realize that is too late.


Are you saving something for the special occasion??? But who knows whether you will be Present for that “Special Occasion”? 


To give you all an example, during my training of Time Management Program in one of the organizations, I came across a Manager who appeared very busy and stressed out. I asked, Sir, why are you working so hard? He replied for my Family, for my sons. I asked, how much time do you give to your family and your sons? For a moment he paused and replied, every Sunday 1 hour – quality time. I asked, but sir, your sons need quantity too, what about more time to your family and he smiled and replied “I have planned for my retirement”, “I will be there all the time for them after my retirement.” To this I inquired further, “Sir, What if you retire from this world, before you retire from your job???”, won’t you feel regretted that you did not spend quantity time with your sons and family.


Friends, I’m not saying lavish out and freak out totally, but at least enjoy the life your love to live. But why compromise – when you can afford something today, why wait for the special day..


So friends, ask this question to your self today, “Am I living the life I love to live, am I spending my time, money and energy in the right direction today or am I waiting for some special day….the right time to come.”


Here is a brief list of some thing we keep waiting to do on that special day..


Saying  “I Love You” to  our near and dear ones

Saying “Sorry” to whom we have hurt or asking for forgiveness

Going on that dream trip or vacation

Eating out the food that I cherish the most

Spending time with loved ones

Playing that game or sports I love so  much

Spending time on my hobby

Starting a new venture – business

Please do add to the list if required……



Refusing to Accept Failure

Sir Edmund Hillary was the first man to climb Mount Everest. On May 29, 1953 he scaled the highest mountain then known to man-29,000 feet straight up. He was knighted for his efforts.

He even made American Express card commercials because of it! However, until we read his book, ‘High Adventure’, we don’t understand that Hillary had to grow into this success.

You see, in 1952 he attempted to climb Mount Everest, but failed. A few weeks later a group in England asked him to address its members.

Hillary walked on stage to a thunderous applause. The audience was recognizing an attempt at greatness, but Edmund Hillary saw himself as a failure. He moved away from the microphone and walked to the edge of the platform.

He made a fist and pointed at a picture of the mountain. He said in a loud voice, Mount Everest, you beat me the first time, but I’ll beat you the next time because you’ve grown all you are going to grow… but I’m still growing!”


Rest Smart


Once there were a group of men, a young hot-blooded guy and a big number of old folks, doing timber job in a jungle (i.e. chopping down trees).

This young chap is very hard working. He always continues to work through his break time and complains that those old folks were wasting time, having to break few times a day to drink and chat. As times goes by, this young guy noticed that even though he worked thru’ break time and hardly took a rest… those old folks are chopping the same amount of trees as he did and sometimes did more than he did. It was as if those old folks work thru’ the break time as he did. So he decided to work harder the next day…unfortunately the results were even worse.

One day, one of the old folk invited him for a drink during their break time. That young guy refused and said he has no extra time to spend! Then the old man smiled to him and said it was just a waste of effort to keep chopping trees without re-sharpening your knife. Sooner or later you will give up or be as exhausted as you have spent too much energy.

Suddenly the young man realized that actually during break times while those old folks were having a chat, they were also re-sharpening their knife at the same time! And that’s how they can chop faster than him and yet spending lesser time! The old man said what we need is efficiency by making use of our skill and ability intelligently. Only then can we have more times to do other things.

Otherwise you will always keep saying … I have no time!

The morale of the story: By taking a short break during work, it would make you feel fresher, think well and work better after the break! (Or am I just finding excuse to take a break). But by taking a break, it is not to stop work but to rest and re-think our strategy to go about it from another angle. Think smart, work smart and rest smart.



Tell them what you want


One of the staff in a high school found it difficult to stop students running up and down the stairs. She continually told them not to run but it made little difference. She was at her wits’ end. I suggested that instead of telling them not to run she say something like: “Slow down please” or “Walk down the stairs.” She was excited and somewhat amazed to report that it had worked – such a little change in language brought such a marked improvement in the match between what she wanted the kids to do and what they actually did.


How does this happen?


If I don’t want you to think of pink elephants and I say “Don’t think of pink elephants” what happens? You immediately get a picture of pink elephants in your mind and then, if you are feeling complicit as you read this, you try not to think about them. Now, if I’d asked you not to think about red rhinos, for example, there is much less chance of you conjuring up those pink elephants.


The mind works a bit like a search engine on the internet. Put in a word, press SEARCH and all the references to that word come up on the screen. Put in a mental suggestion like pink elephants and you don’t even have to press a button; up come images of pink elephants on the screen of the mind.


And that’s what happens in kids’ minds when we tell them not to do something. Its not wilful disobedience so much as the mind making pictures and the body going towards them.


Bill Rogers – in his excellent behaviour management series “Corrective Discipline” – suggests using the pattern “When …. then ….” rather than “You can’t …. because….”


For example: “Johnny, when you have finished tidying your room, then you can go out to play.” rather than: “Johnny you can’t go out to play because your room is a mess”


With the first sentence Johnny gets a picture in his mind of tidying his room, then going out to play. Just what we want. In the second sentence we’re inviting his subconscious to picture himself not being able to go out to play and with an untidy room.


This works for our own internal dialogue as well. If we continually tell ourselves that we shouldn’t be eating those cream cakes (assuming we want to lose weight) we’re making things unnecessarily difficult for ourselves.


If you catch yourself about to ask a child, or tell yourself, not to do something, ask them/tell yourself to do an alternative instead. The unconscious mind will make pictures of whatever words you say – so choose the ones you want the listener to see.

Some alternatives to use.

I mustn’t eat that cream cake – I will leave the cream cake in the shop.

Don’t be late – Come home in good time.

Stop shouting – Talk quietly.

You can’t have any pudding because you haven’t eaten your meat. – When you’ve eaten your meat you can have some pudding



Hypertension – or high blood pressure – is a big problem for many people. Millions of people been diagnosed with high blood pressure.

You are the only one who can take charge of your life and
change your current lifestyle to do something to improve that
blood pressure problem.

Increasing the consumption of plant foods into your diet is
very important in lowering blood pressure. A good vegetarian
diet contains less saturated fat and refined carbohydrates, and
more potassium, complex carbohydrates, fibre, calcium,
magnesium, vitamin C and essential fatty acids.

Some supplements that are good for lowering blood pressure are
fish oil supplements or flaxseed oil which are both rich in
omega-3 fatty acids.

Measuring Blood Pressure:

There are two numbers taken into account when blood pressure is
measured. The highest number is the
systolic which measures the
pressure inside the arteries when the heart beats. The lower
number is the
diastolic which measures the pressure in the
arteries when the heart is at rest between beats.

Hypertension is ranked in stages with the first stage being
Prehypertension. The measurements in this range are Systolic –
120 to 139 and Diastolic – 80 to 89.

Stage 1 is the next stage with measurements being Systolic –
140 to 159 and Diastolic – 90 to 99.

Stage 2 is the highest stage of hypertension with measurements
being Systolic greater than 160 and Diastolic greater than 100.

Some natural remedies for hypertension are:

1- Raw garlic. Have garlic in salads and also use it in
cooking. Garlic supplements are good to take on a daily basis,
one after breakfast and one after dinner.

2- Eat apples. Apples have pectin with can help to lower blood
pressure so try to eat two apples a day.

3- Papaya is very good if you eat it first thing in the morning
every day and then do not eat anything for two hours after.

4- Eggs and meat will cause blood pressure to rise more than
any other food. Avoid meat, tea and coffee, sugar and fried

5- Cucumbers are rich in potassium, phosphorus and calcium.
They’re also a good diuretic and calming agent. To help bring
down blood pressure, try eating a cucumber every day. If you
have a juicer, drink ½ cup of fresh cucumber juice. You can also
include some carrots and parsley, which is another good

6- Cayenne pepper is very good for stabilizing blood pressure.

7- Drink watermelon seeds. Crush or blend two teaspoons of
dried watermelon seeds and then put them in a cup of boiled
water. Leave them for one hour and then strain them. Drink the
watermelon seed tea half an hour before each meal. This can also
improve kidney function so you may also be using the bathroom a
bit more than usual.

8- Raspberry leaf tea can also help to reduce blood pressure.
You can have this tea hot or cold. Combine 1 ounce of raspberry
leaves to 2 cups of boiling water and simmer for 20 minutes.
Drink 1 cup a day.

The last natural remedy…

Laugh! Studies have shown that five to ten minutes of laughter
first thing in the morning is a great way to improve blood
pressure levels.



Ants Swarming around our minds…………….

It’s a scientific fact:

You’ve got 45,000 of them a day.


Swarming around in your mind.

And these types of ANTS literally eat you alive.

…….. . . They destroy your dreams

…….. . . make you see Goblins out of every shadow

…….. . . instill fear and rejection in your heart

……. . . and prevent you from the inborn greatness your Creator destined you to discover inside yourself.

What are these ANTS?

They are your

A utomatic

N egative

T houghts

ANTS is a term coined by Dr. Daniel Amen, a world-renowned psychiatrist and brain imaging specialist.

To prevent our minds from ANTS only one medicine was prescribed by GOD. Keep yourself calm and follow the path of GOD.


Weakness = More powerful Strength in life………

A 10-year-old boy decided to study judo despite the fact that he had lost his left arm in a car accident. The boy began lessons with an old Japanese judo master. The boy was doing well, so he couldn’t understand why, after three months of training the master had taught him only one move. “Sensei,” the boy finally said, “Shouldn’t I be learning more moves?”
“This is the only move you know, but this is the only move you’ll
ever need to know,” the sensei replied. Not quite understanding, but believing in his teacher, the boy kept training.

Several months later, the sensei took the boy to his first
tournament. Surprising himself, the boy easily won his first two
matches. The third match proved to be more difficult, but after some time, his opponent became impatient and charged; the boy deftly used his one move to win the match. Still amazed by his success, the boy was now in the finals. For a while, the boy appeared to be overmatched. Concerned that the boy might get hurt, the referee called a time-out. He was about to stop the match when the sensei intervened.” No,” the sensei insisted, “Let him continue. “Soon after the match resumed, his opponent made a critical mistake: he dropped his guard. Instantly, the boy used his move to pin him.The boy had won the match and the tournament. He was the champion.

On the way home, the boy and sensei reviewed every move in each and every match. Then the boy summoned the courage to ask what was really on his mind. “Sensei, how did I win the tournament with only one move?”

“You won for two reasons,” the sensei answered.
“First, you’ve almost mastered one of the most difficult throws in
all of judo. And second, the only known defense for that move is for your opponent to grab your left arm.”

The boy’s biggest weakness had become his biggest strength.

Moral of the story
Sometimes we feel that we have certain weaknesses and we blame God,
for the circumstances and our self for it, but we never know that our
weakness can become our strength one day. Each of us is special and
important in this world, so never think you have any weakness, never
think of pride or pain, just live your life to its fullest and
extract the best out of it!